things I want in life....

1. Friends. Real ones.
2. True love.
3. Financial security.
4. Room to breathe.
5. Intellectual stimulation.
6. A beautiful nice home.
7. Good health.
8. Integrity.
9. Happiness.
10. Look at the positives in everything negative.
11. Have myself a loving family.
12. To not cry over stupid issues.
13. Respect my parents.
14. Learn from mistakes.
15. Be confidence.
16. Be myself.
17. Never stop learning.
18. To be successful in career.
19. To explore other countries.
20. To respect and be respected.
21. Be lovely.
22. Smile more.
23. To achieve my dream before i die.
24. To appreciate people who is true to me.

很多時候

愛情何必論長短，
剎那真心即永恆。

當我不在堅持、不在設定自己該得到什麼的時候，我的心便寬容了。
於是，我開始明白，什麼是快樂為什麼不快樂。

很多時候：

能愛人比被愛快樂。
不要求比要求快樂。
原諒比被原諒快樂。
不期待比期待快樂。
不擁有比擁有快樂。
不計較比計較快樂。
對自己誠實比對別人交代重要。

理智做 选择

何必那么辛苦。。。

有人对我说， 拍拖是考验他是否适合你。 而结婚是共同有个目标。

做不到，何必在一起?

女人，还是要理智做选择。

Hate driving in malaysia!

why is these happened almost everyday driving on the road in malaysia??? piss me off! i would swear and become so irritated driving here.

...the slow drivers ALWAYS hog the right lane
...the slow drivers hog the right lane and talk on their cellphone, oblivious and inconsiderate of those behind them
...the slow drivers would speed up on purpose when they realize your intention of overtaking them
...the slow drivers stick stubbornly to their speed limit or brake frequently for not apparent reason on the right lane although there are signs indicating that they should stick left if not overtaking
...the slow drivers (either during peak or off-peak hours) clearly do not have a life or a family to rush home for or are taking their slow, sweet time looking for one or another
...our drivers do not use signals when changing lanes or turning into junctions
...drivers who drive in the middle of the road between 2 lanes where you can't overtake them
......our roads have got potholes, debris, roadkill, animal poo and other discarded items that are detrimental to your car and dangerous to your life
...and guy drivers who keep staring at you and stalking behind?!

wtf

thinking of happy things i have...

-an old simple Nokia phone from my mom since I lost my Motorola V3X in china which I used for 1 month and changed 4 times from the place I bought at Low Yat * i feel the phone really don't like me =~(
-a 3G LG brand phone from Australia which don't function properly anymore
-a Sony USB + MP3 + recorder which I used to listen to my favourite songs and record my melody when I am inspired.
-a HP Compaq Presario V3000 model notebook, is my baby!! it looks really elegant ,black in colour with wide screen.
-a Gucci purse from aus few years back, now it looks a bit dirty... i want a new one!
-sexy lingerie...... turn me on! =P
-comfortably driving a VR4 Mitsubishi Galant which can speed and easily handle, no feeling driving 150mph on the highway. can i drive any fasteR? =P
-lots of accessories~ pendants, bracelet, earrings, necklace,rings....
-Anna Sui's fan! all the perfumes, love its lips gloss, face powder, mascara, mirror...
-I have a customised Anna Sui's tattoo on my leg~~! love it!
-a Swarovski heart shaped crystal pendant given by Andreas on valentine's day =x (oh i can get excited with swarovski)

what species am i on earth? the list goes on.....

take me to the happy ending

Let's talk this over
It's not like we're dead
Was it something I did?
Was it something you said?
Don't leave me hanging
In a city so dead
Held up so high
On such a breakable thread

You were everything everything that I wanted
Believing we were meant to be, supposed to be and not to worry
All of the memories, so close to me
All this time the things we did
Good or bad I swallow it
Can't you see can't you feel
Don't care what other says
Because they don't know me
As long as we still have each other
You love me and I love you
Our love goes strong

Infidelity: why men cheat

It's been called everything from having an "improper relationship" to having an "undercover lover" to having a "freak on the side." But whatever name it's given, it means one thing -- cheating. And relationship experts say men are doing it now more than ever.

What's going on here? Why the recent surge in male infidelity? Relationship counselors say it can be attributed to many factors, but perhaps the overriding reason men are cheating at an alarming rate is because it's easier than ever before.

While men many times have the false impression that they cheat simply to have uncommitted sex, experts say the reasons run much deeper. The following, according to experts, are the real reasons men cheat:

Women Stand For It:

Men wouldn't cheat if women didn't let them. Women marry men who have cheated on them during courtship, even though relationship experts warn that a man who cheats on his fiancee, or even his girlfriend, will probably cheat on his wife. But the reality is that the world is filled with scores of lonely women looking for love. Men are well aware that the loneliness some women feel is so strong that they are willing to settle for a cheater, and write off his scurrilous ways as a simple case of "boys will be boys." At day's end, these women would rather lie down next to a cheater than no man at all.

Frustration Over Present Relationship:

It all sounded good at first -- sharing his life, his hopes, his dreams in an exciting relationship with one special lady. But soon after the newness wore off, his romantic visions of a wonderful future shifts to the realities of a problem-filled daily existence. The dishwasher's broken, the car needs a new transmission, work is a pain and the bill collectors are calling. Before long, most of their conversations consist of taking care of mundane tasks. He begins to feel like his partner is more critical of him, more argumentative, and does not give him the attention that he deserves.

So he eventually cheats, viewing it as a way to obtain the emotion that is no longer present in his current relationship. With his undercover lover, there is no stress, no pressure. They both work hard to satisfy each other mentally and physically. They share their shortcomings, and in time develop an emotional bond.

Thrill-seeking:

This man is bored and likes the novelty of being with another woman. So rather than put energy into rekindling the relationship he has with his partner, developing a hobby or engaging in something else that will give him an adrenaline rush, he looks for excitement in all the wrong places -- first and foremost, in-between the sheets. He usually has a series of affairs with different women, moving from one to another one when the novelty wears off.

Ego Boost:

The cheating game is filled with men looking for reassurance of their manhood from a woman other than the one he's involved with. He feels a lack of self-worth and self-esteem, and cheating provides a mental vacation, an escape from the responsibilities of his daily life. He has convinced himself that his cheating heart can cure his wallowing psyche.

Lacks Will Power:

Although men are generally thought of as the cheaters, infidelity is a two-way street, with more and more women partaking in -- and initiating -- the deed. Increasingly, women who don't want to be involved in a serious relationship are seeking out married men. And some men go along with a woman's advances because they don't want to be called "whipped" if they don't.

A Spiritual Emptiness:

Few religions condone a man having an intimate relationship with more than one woman. In fact, most refer to it as die ultimate sin. Forsaking all others is at the core of any spiritually based relationship. Therefore, experts say that a man who chooses to partake in one of the few acts that is strictly forbidden in most religious teachings hints at his lack of spirituality. With a religious foundation, a man will understand that perhaps the only thing strong enough to quell temptations raging inside of him is a strong spiritual base.

Climate Of Instant Gratification:

His personal values have become confused with society's "just-do-it" mentality. He thinks and acts in 30-second sound bites, with no thought about the repercussions of his actions. He sees no reason to rein in his feelings and desires. If he thinks a woman is attractive, he'll go after her, never letting a little thing like his present relationship stand in his way.

Seeking Revenge:

He's angry at something his partner said or did, and is looking to even the score, even if that means breaking the rules. In his mind, he feels cheating is a justified way to make the scales balanced again. For angry men, cheating provides a challenge. Although he figures his partner will never find out about it, simply knowing how much it would hurt her if she did is enough to satisfy most seething men.

Left Guard Down:

He has become sloopy in setting boundaries with female friends. Many times this situation occurs at work, when a friendship with a co-worker spills over into a sexual relationship. Many times, a woman's simple smile or bat of the eye can spur this transition. Before a man realms what's happening his impulses take over and he begins to equate his masculinity with his ability to satisfy a woman who has given a slight indication that she is interested.

So what happens after a man cheats? Experts say if his partner doesn't find out about transgressions, a man will most likely continue to do it. While there are numerous reasons why man cheats, one simple fact remains: Most men don't want to stop playing the cheating game, even though a cheater "must forever keep his lies straight," Baisden says, "because with one slip of the tongue, his world could come tumbling down around him."

When a cheater is finally unmasked and the stick of dynamite he's been secretly holding finally explodes, all trust in him is lost, and the message to the man's partner is painfully clear. Nothing is as personal as cheating.

Experts say many women may be milling to forgive once, but that's it. "The old adage, `Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.'