Hate driving in malaysia!

why is these happened almost everyday driving on the road in malaysia??? piss me off! i would swear and become so irritated driving here.

...the slow drivers ALWAYS hog the right lane
...the slow drivers hog the right lane and talk on their cellphone, oblivious and inconsiderate of those behind them
...the slow drivers would speed up on purpose when they realize your intention of overtaking them
...the slow drivers stick stubbornly to their speed limit or brake frequently for not apparent reason on the right lane although there are signs indicating that they should stick left if not overtaking
...the slow drivers (either during peak or off-peak hours) clearly do not have a life or a family to rush home for or are taking their slow, sweet time looking for one or another
...our drivers do not use signals when changing lanes or turning into junctions
...drivers who drive in the middle of the road between 2 lanes where you can't overtake them
......our roads have got potholes, debris, roadkill, animal poo and other discarded items that are detrimental to your car and dangerous to your life
...and guy drivers who keep staring at you and stalking behind?!

wtf

thinking of happy things i have...

-an old simple Nokia phone from my mom since I lost my Motorola V3X in china which I used for 1 month and changed 4 times from the place I bought at Low Yat * i feel the phone really don't like me =~(
-a 3G LG brand phone from Australia which don't function properly anymore
-a Sony USB + MP3 + recorder which I used to listen to my favourite songs and record my melody when I am inspired.
-a HP Compaq Presario V3000 model notebook, is my baby!! it looks really elegant ,black in colour with wide screen.
-a Gucci purse from aus few years back, now it looks a bit dirty... i want a new one!
-sexy lingerie...... turn me on! =P
-comfortably driving a VR4 Mitsubishi Galant which can speed and easily handle, no feeling driving 150mph on the highway. can i drive any fasteR? =P
-lots of accessories~ pendants, bracelet, earrings, necklace,rings....
-Anna Sui's fan! all the perfumes, love its lips gloss, face powder, mascara, mirror...
-I have a customised Anna Sui's tattoo on my leg~~! love it!
-a Swarovski heart shaped crystal pendant given by Andreas on valentine's day =x (oh i can get excited with swarovski)

what species am i on earth? the list goes on.....

take me to the happy ending

Let's talk this over
It's not like we're dead
Was it something I did?
Was it something you said?
Don't leave me hanging
In a city so dead
Held up so high
On such a breakable thread

You were everything everything that I wanted
Believing we were meant to be, supposed to be and not to worry
All of the memories, so close to me
All this time the things we did
Good or bad I swallow it
Can't you see can't you feel
Don't care what other says
Because they don't know me
As long as we still have each other
You love me and I love you
Our love goes strong

Infidelity: why men cheat

It's been called everything from having an "improper relationship" to having an "undercover lover" to having a "freak on the side." But whatever name it's given, it means one thing -- cheating. And relationship experts say men are doing it now more than ever.

What's going on here? Why the recent surge in male infidelity? Relationship counselors say it can be attributed to many factors, but perhaps the overriding reason men are cheating at an alarming rate is because it's easier than ever before.

While men many times have the false impression that they cheat simply to have uncommitted sex, experts say the reasons run much deeper. The following, according to experts, are the real reasons men cheat:

Women Stand For It:

Men wouldn't cheat if women didn't let them. Women marry men who have cheated on them during courtship, even though relationship experts warn that a man who cheats on his fiancee, or even his girlfriend, will probably cheat on his wife. But the reality is that the world is filled with scores of lonely women looking for love. Men are well aware that the loneliness some women feel is so strong that they are willing to settle for a cheater, and write off his scurrilous ways as a simple case of "boys will be boys." At day's end, these women would rather lie down next to a cheater than no man at all.

Frustration Over Present Relationship:

It all sounded good at first -- sharing his life, his hopes, his dreams in an exciting relationship with one special lady. But soon after the newness wore off, his romantic visions of a wonderful future shifts to the realities of a problem-filled daily existence. The dishwasher's broken, the car needs a new transmission, work is a pain and the bill collectors are calling. Before long, most of their conversations consist of taking care of mundane tasks. He begins to feel like his partner is more critical of him, more argumentative, and does not give him the attention that he deserves.

So he eventually cheats, viewing it as a way to obtain the emotion that is no longer present in his current relationship. With his undercover lover, there is no stress, no pressure. They both work hard to satisfy each other mentally and physically. They share their shortcomings, and in time develop an emotional bond.

Thrill-seeking:

This man is bored and likes the novelty of being with another woman. So rather than put energy into rekindling the relationship he has with his partner, developing a hobby or engaging in something else that will give him an adrenaline rush, he looks for excitement in all the wrong places -- first and foremost, in-between the sheets. He usually has a series of affairs with different women, moving from one to another one when the novelty wears off.

Ego Boost:

The cheating game is filled with men looking for reassurance of their manhood from a woman other than the one he's involved with. He feels a lack of self-worth and self-esteem, and cheating provides a mental vacation, an escape from the responsibilities of his daily life. He has convinced himself that his cheating heart can cure his wallowing psyche.

Lacks Will Power:

Although men are generally thought of as the cheaters, infidelity is a two-way street, with more and more women partaking in -- and initiating -- the deed. Increasingly, women who don't want to be involved in a serious relationship are seeking out married men. And some men go along with a woman's advances because they don't want to be called "whipped" if they don't.

A Spiritual Emptiness:

Few religions condone a man having an intimate relationship with more than one woman. In fact, most refer to it as die ultimate sin. Forsaking all others is at the core of any spiritually based relationship. Therefore, experts say that a man who chooses to partake in one of the few acts that is strictly forbidden in most religious teachings hints at his lack of spirituality. With a religious foundation, a man will understand that perhaps the only thing strong enough to quell temptations raging inside of him is a strong spiritual base.

Climate Of Instant Gratification:

His personal values have become confused with society's "just-do-it" mentality. He thinks and acts in 30-second sound bites, with no thought about the repercussions of his actions. He sees no reason to rein in his feelings and desires. If he thinks a woman is attractive, he'll go after her, never letting a little thing like his present relationship stand in his way.

Seeking Revenge:

He's angry at something his partner said or did, and is looking to even the score, even if that means breaking the rules. In his mind, he feels cheating is a justified way to make the scales balanced again. For angry men, cheating provides a challenge. Although he figures his partner will never find out about it, simply knowing how much it would hurt her if she did is enough to satisfy most seething men.

Left Guard Down:

He has become sloopy in setting boundaries with female friends. Many times this situation occurs at work, when a friendship with a co-worker spills over into a sexual relationship. Many times, a woman's simple smile or bat of the eye can spur this transition. Before a man realms what's happening his impulses take over and he begins to equate his masculinity with his ability to satisfy a woman who has given a slight indication that she is interested.

So what happens after a man cheats? Experts say if his partner doesn't find out about transgressions, a man will most likely continue to do it. While there are numerous reasons why man cheats, one simple fact remains: Most men don't want to stop playing the cheating game, even though a cheater "must forever keep his lies straight," Baisden says, "because with one slip of the tongue, his world could come tumbling down around him."

When a cheater is finally unmasked and the stick of dynamite he's been secretly holding finally explodes, all trust in him is lost, and the message to the man's partner is painfully clear. Nothing is as personal as cheating.

Experts say many women may be milling to forgive once, but that's it. "The old adage, `Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.'

everything will be alright

In such times of great transition,
Don't get stuck in one position.
Be supple, be bold,
Be strong, don't fold.
Hold your nerve
Through the swerve,
Retain your verve,
And all will be well,
As far as I can tell.

If in doubt,
Or afraid you'll go without,
Say, 'all change is good', over and over
And before you know it, you'll recover
Your composure
And will stop fearing exposure
To the new, so much.
Use a light touch
In your push-and-pull,
And always remember empty and full
Alternate in a cycle like day and night,
Then everything will be alright.

醒悟

或许就有这么一瞬间，忽然醒悟不需 太认真，会活得 轻松 些。。。

my accessories brand & design

hi ppl,
I have created my own brand few years back but got no time to pursue my business. This time I really want to continue my biz. Please see below accessories I have made and if you are interested to buy, let me know~! appreciate if you can spread the word to frens =)



more products coming!

starting a new chapter

perhaps the last few months wasn't that happy, wasn't that smooth and who can guarantee life is always great? undeniable there is ups and downs in life no matter it is from your family, your loved ones, your friends, colleagues or people around you.

'life is a winding road' and our life in this world is limited. don't you think so? we live this limited life and die sooner or later. is a cycle of life where every human has to go through. is like everyone will go through different phases of life and experience in different timing and yet we all learn the same value and meaning of life. at the end of the day, we still die. and have you ever thought what do you gain for this life when you come to that end of the day? perhaps you want to live with no regret. as we all are just average human not holy god, we face the nature of human behaviour: selfishness, loneliness, madness, greediness and the sins that we bring upon us. we no longer think of ethic thoroughly.

in fact, we learn from mistakes and we learn to forgive. as long as we are willing to improve and change to be a better person. cultivate a good deed and start a new chapter again =)

and i found some study of buddhism which is quite meaningful and worth to read on:
Four Noble Truths: the universality of suffering, the cause of suffering through selfish desire, the solution to suffering and the way to overcome suffering. This final point is called the Noble Eightfold Path, this being eight steps consisting of wisdom (right views, right intention) ethics (right speech, right action, right livelihood), mental discipline (right effort, right mindfulness, right concentration), which ultimately lead to liberation from the source of suffering.

what's love

"Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back."

Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived. " - meetjoeblack –

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life..

You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like stupid thing that broke your heart into pieces, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain.

But if there's one thing I've learnt, its that getting swept off our feet falling in love is just one part. one pretty small part, dare I say. What people forget to tell you is that when you fall in love and you get too close to a person, you change and you lose yourself. You lose things that were always essentially meant to be you and that you always held...things that made you different from everyone else. And you change into something else because of that one person, you drop things along the way, you gain things along the way, but in the end.. there's so much giving and taking you lose all shape and become shapeless and lumpy.

And one day you realize you're not you anymore.

And that’s when you realize its never worth it to lose yourself.

Until you find the right one who'll love you the same way back. Then it's worth the love.

Tiara beach resort, Port Dickson

Last weekend I went to Port Dickson for a relaxing holiday for free. I had no idea about the place but the price is about 480RM a night. So I think it should be quite nice. In fact, they are shouting the resort is Malaysia's largest man-made inland sea resort. However, it was a bit disappointing about the place and food there. And I would say they are targeting Malays as I can see there are so many Malays at the time.

For people would like to know about the place, can go link below:
http://www.tbr.com.my/