Yesterday morning I went to TTDI Park for my first time ever shooting. It was initiated by my ex colleagues in Astro aka photographers. They have been earning some side income taking nice photograph which submitted to some online photo agency in fact they take distinctive photos ;) As they see I have potential to be photogenic in a picture so the idea came across when I also wanna build some portfolio for myself ;)
So the theme for the shooting was to be casual lingering in the park listening to music, using laptop, eating apple, lying on the grass, leaning on the tree, doing some yoga and stretching... haha we took about 3 hours plus nearly 4 hours shoot. It was tiring but FUN! It was slightly hot as the sun shined and affected my mood. It would be awesome if the photo taken at the park in Australia during Autumn!!! where the leaves fall beautifully with greener grass and feel the easy breezy cooling weather. argh again I miss Melbourne! Flagstaff garden was the park I would pass by everyday when I stayed in lovely Melbourne.
Anyway, the shooting was severe yet enjoyable. Severe is because there are so many big red ants on the trees and hiding in the grass. I didn't realize the first tree I tried to touch was full of big red ants. It was like 2-3cm big! I thought was the wood on the tree that was itchy and stick to my hand. Once I put off my hand there were 6 big red ants on my palm!! I was screaming and feel disgusted! yewl~
I can't wait to see the photos tomorrow. My friends said the photo looks nice (haha, better be nice!)
well, to be continued... will share the photos once I have it ;)
Monday, November 26, 2007
Friday, November 23, 2007
Intel cool execution
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Saturday, November 17, 2007
doubts about
# Strike while the iron is cold. Know when to be reflective and invoke principles. When the house is burning is no time to teach fire safety principles.
# All good relationships are based upon mutual respect. If you do not feel respect for your partner, or believe your partner is losing respect for you, then consider ways of rebuilding it immediately.
# Communicate with your partner. Without communication, there is no relationship. Stay in touch by, for example, calling your partner even if it's just to say 'hi' and 'I love you'.
# Avoid flirting with others, especially previous partners or coworkers. Doing so may spur romantic feelings for another. There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite gender; just keep flirting out of the friendship.
# Avoid any activity that could cause your partner to experience doubt, suspicion or distrust - in this way, if something happens which looks incriminating, your partner will believe you if you claim you are innocent. Past behavior predicts future actions - building a solid foundation of trust and integrity will take you far.
# Be the first to tell your partner what is on your mind either positive or negative. Address what your plan is to remedy it. Playing guessing games may lead to misunderstanding and confusion.
# Always make sure to show your partner that you appreciate him/her. Whether it's calling them to check in, say I love you, or just spend your Saturday night together. The possibilities are endless
# Take care of yourself. Treating yourself with respect and love is as important as respecting and loving your partner. Conduct yourself with dignity, even if you're very familiar with one another.
# Know yourself and be honest with yourself and love yourself -- first! Only then can you truly appreciate and love someone else.
# All good relationships are based upon mutual respect. If you do not feel respect for your partner, or believe your partner is losing respect for you, then consider ways of rebuilding it immediately.
# Communicate with your partner. Without communication, there is no relationship. Stay in touch by, for example, calling your partner even if it's just to say 'hi' and 'I love you'.
# Avoid flirting with others, especially previous partners or coworkers. Doing so may spur romantic feelings for another. There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite gender; just keep flirting out of the friendship.
# Avoid any activity that could cause your partner to experience doubt, suspicion or distrust - in this way, if something happens which looks incriminating, your partner will believe you if you claim you are innocent. Past behavior predicts future actions - building a solid foundation of trust and integrity will take you far.
# Be the first to tell your partner what is on your mind either positive or negative. Address what your plan is to remedy it. Playing guessing games may lead to misunderstanding and confusion.
# Always make sure to show your partner that you appreciate him/her. Whether it's calling them to check in, say I love you, or just spend your Saturday night together. The possibilities are endless
# Take care of yourself. Treating yourself with respect and love is as important as respecting and loving your partner. Conduct yourself with dignity, even if you're very familiar with one another.
# Know yourself and be honest with yourself and love yourself -- first! Only then can you truly appreciate and love someone else.
decision
Never thought I would come into this dilemma....Can't sleep can't eat, feeling my brain gonna burst and when I thought thing started to be more stable yet another wave has come. So many difficult times I had been through with him and chances and chances given to work out this love I hope for. However, it doesn't go so well. One year of rship is not long. But what I had been through in one year is more than a couple in 7 years. The past is something cannot be changed, yet you will remember as a memory especially there's wound at heart and everyone knows it takes time to heal and effort to mend the broken heart. Love needs to be tested over time. Finding a right man who can treat you well and make you feel safe and secure are vital. Why being question back and feel bad of being not good enough when I have sacrified so much? Would you stay to see me happy or leave to make me sad? Your heart wanna leave no matter what happen here. I would have to let you go no matter how hard I feel. Don't you say I am being selfish not to let you go or being inconsiderate that you can earn better money and have a better life there.I know about it but how to take it when I still have doubts about you. You ask me not to make assumption but obviously you have decided it yourself and make arrangements without I knowing it. How easy to say you will be faithful and won't cheat on me when you know you will go party for sure when you go back there and you like drinking and get to know gals? Even now you can't tell me what I need to know and truly honest with me. What would happen in a distance rship like this? It's gonna be so fragile, so hurtful.
Perhaps, you don't really love me. You only love yourself.
http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Healthy-Relationship
Perhaps, you don't really love me. You only love yourself.
http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Healthy-Relationship
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
What are we fighting about, honey?
Found a good article about relationship. What are we fighting for? Have you learn anything about how to handle it?
Talking about relationships is fraught with peril, mainly because it's not easy to change the way you relate to your lovers. No matter what I say here, for many people it won't do much good. Most relationships are built around a way of communicating, and changing that can be really tough, even when one or both partners can clearly see the dynamic going on. These thoughts are offered as personal observations; Lord knows if anyone will actually learn anything or, if they do, use what they learn in their relationship. But with that disclaimer, and a big gulp, away we go.
What makes for a successful relationship? As far as I can see, it's that you feel that the other person knows who you are, cares about you, enjoys your company, and listens to you even when it's difficult. And, of course, vice versa. Without this base, there's not much to go on or grow on.
Feelings are important. Listen to your feelings. But don't get attached to them. Feelings come and go... unless you grab on and start running with them. Then they can get much, much bigger. ("Oh, is that all that was the matter?")
You can't argue about feelings. If you can trust your lover to tell you how they honestly feel, and to listen to you when you tell them your feelings' truth, you can go pretty far.
Not everyone likes to talk about their feelings. But if you can do it when you need to, that's enough.
Where do you start when you're angry with your lover? Or scared, or insecure, or jealous? How can you talk about it without it blowing up?
First, what is the feeling that is demanding attention? What are you feeling? It all starts with this.
It's tempting to refer to all these sorts of emotions--anger, jealousy, fear, insecurity, loneliness--as "bad feelings." The problem with "bad feelings" is that it's easy to get confused about why they're bad. Sure, they may not be pleasant. But if they're honest, then they're vital. It is not wrong to feel these sorts of feelings. Don't squelch them when they come up; if you do, you bury part of yourself. And remember that if you let yourself feel these things, and if you can be real with your lover, and if it leads to you working things out... there is then nothing bad, at all! Where then is the "bad" feeling?
The next question is not "Why are you feeling that?" The reason is that feelings just happen. Emotions are not rational. Arguing about whether a feeling is genuine or legitimate is just a plain distraction from the situation: that something happened, and you had difficult feelings about it.
Another huge distraction is overgeneralizing. Going from "I felt this way when you did that" to "You always do that!" changes the discussion from a statement of personal truth into a battle over the cosmos. It's no longer about feelings. It's about reality, about arguing over who's right and who's wrong. Those arguments are distractions, once again. A feeling, by itself, doesn't make anyone right or wrong. It just is.
What went into that feeling? What prompted it, what other worries or concerns are in the background? Look under the surface.
The next challenge is, can you tell your partner this feeling? It's real easy to think, well, it's no big deal. I don't need to mention it. Little niggling resentments can grow very, very large if you habitually don't tell your lover how you feel. Be careful of a molehill growing into a mountain, because you wanted to be polite rather than being honest.
This isn't a license to be hurtful; telling someone how you feel is different from accusing them or blaming them because you feel that way. If you feel angry towards your lover, you can tell them about it without insulting them. If you lose so much respect for your partner that you can't resist insulting them or being sarcastic when having discussions like these, then your attempts to work things out will turn into withering crossfire. This may be your idea of fun, but I doubt it. Just say how you feel, here and now.
Does your partner listen? Before anything else happens, your partner needs to let you know that they heard you. If they ignore you, or dismiss what you're saying, or immediately start telling you how they feel, then there's not much communication happening.
Listening isn't the same as hearing successfully. You may tell your lover that you had a hard feeling when they did something, and they may hear that you think they're evil, when all you're saying is that you felt something. Check that your lover understood what you meant.
If your lover becomes defensive, that's understandable. It's hard not to. But it won't get you far. The question is not, were they right or wrong to do what they did? The question is, what to do about the fact that you felt what you felt? Defensiveness is a diversion. The challenge is to avoid putting your lover on the defensive; the challenge is letting them know that you care about them, that you want to work things out, even while you are dealing with intense emotions. Good faith is essential; if you don't want to work things out, or if they don't, then none of this will work.
Emotions can amplify themselves. Taking a feeling personally--dwelling on your lover's motivations, or letting a momentary irritation rise into a daylong vendetta--may give you an exciting emotional ride. But it doesn't help you work things out with your lover. The more you work yourself up into a towering panic or a quivering dread, the harder it'll be for you to talk things over without your lover reacting intensely as well.
What a worthless point? It's numbling obvious that you won't freak out if you don't freak out? Perhaps. I know that sometimes emotions are literally overpowering, in which case my advice isn't much good. But I also know that many people spend years in a simmering state of discontent, going over and over the same ground. It's easy to go from a feeling that comes up, arising from something that happens, into a long litany of past grievances. The more grudges you hold, the easier it'll be to turn your present feeling into a righteous battle over wrongs past and present. Stay here and now, if you can, both when you're talking to yourself and when you're with your lover.
Once your lover's heard you, then what? Then, perhaps, nothing. Maybe you just wanted to tell them to let them know what was up with you, and you don't particularly feel they needed to or should have done anything differently. Not every feeling demands a solution; if you leap too quickly from saying what's up to deciding what to do about it, you can miss the intimacy that comes with telling difficult truth. Sometimes tough feelings just happen, and all you need is support. Talking about the feeling is a complete goal in itself; it's not the prelude to anything.
If that's not the end of the story, then what is? Maybe your lover can't do much more than support you and tell you they care for you. If you're feeling insecure, well, that isn't always something your lover can fix. They may try, but ultimately many emotions come from within.
Though, of course, not all. If your lover broke an agreement between you, or acted in a way that you had told them you would feel badly about, then an emotional response is pretty understandable. Agreements are troublesome things; vital for giving the outlines of a relationship, distracting in that you can disagree over exactly what agreements were made. Again, good faith is key. What is the spirit of the law you're trying to letter? If you lose sight of that, the rules will be empty and hollow.
If your lover breaks your agreements, over and over again, then there are two questions: why are they doing this? and, why are you reentering the agreement with them? Trust is essential for a strong relationship. Trust comes from two things: knowing that agreements made will be kept, and knowing that you will both be there for each other, in good times and in difficult times. When that goes, it's not easy to recapture.
You do not have to put up with anything. If your partner doesn't have much concern for how you feel--if you don't enjoy being with them because of how they behave--then it will be very difficult for you to stay with them. Of course, good faith is needed; if you haven't let them know how you feel, then it's partly your responsibility that they continued to act as they did. And if your feelings have changed, you'd better have let them know about it, or else there's not much way they could be expected to act differently.
Talking about relationships is fraught with peril, mainly because it's not easy to change the way you relate to your lovers. No matter what I say here, for many people it won't do much good. Most relationships are built around a way of communicating, and changing that can be really tough, even when one or both partners can clearly see the dynamic going on. These thoughts are offered as personal observations; Lord knows if anyone will actually learn anything or, if they do, use what they learn in their relationship. But with that disclaimer, and a big gulp, away we go.
What makes for a successful relationship? As far as I can see, it's that you feel that the other person knows who you are, cares about you, enjoys your company, and listens to you even when it's difficult. And, of course, vice versa. Without this base, there's not much to go on or grow on.
Feelings are important. Listen to your feelings. But don't get attached to them. Feelings come and go... unless you grab on and start running with them. Then they can get much, much bigger. ("Oh, is that all that was the matter?")
You can't argue about feelings. If you can trust your lover to tell you how they honestly feel, and to listen to you when you tell them your feelings' truth, you can go pretty far.
Not everyone likes to talk about their feelings. But if you can do it when you need to, that's enough.
Where do you start when you're angry with your lover? Or scared, or insecure, or jealous? How can you talk about it without it blowing up?
First, what is the feeling that is demanding attention? What are you feeling? It all starts with this.
It's tempting to refer to all these sorts of emotions--anger, jealousy, fear, insecurity, loneliness--as "bad feelings." The problem with "bad feelings" is that it's easy to get confused about why they're bad. Sure, they may not be pleasant. But if they're honest, then they're vital. It is not wrong to feel these sorts of feelings. Don't squelch them when they come up; if you do, you bury part of yourself. And remember that if you let yourself feel these things, and if you can be real with your lover, and if it leads to you working things out... there is then nothing bad, at all! Where then is the "bad" feeling?
The next question is not "Why are you feeling that?" The reason is that feelings just happen. Emotions are not rational. Arguing about whether a feeling is genuine or legitimate is just a plain distraction from the situation: that something happened, and you had difficult feelings about it.
Another huge distraction is overgeneralizing. Going from "I felt this way when you did that" to "You always do that!" changes the discussion from a statement of personal truth into a battle over the cosmos. It's no longer about feelings. It's about reality, about arguing over who's right and who's wrong. Those arguments are distractions, once again. A feeling, by itself, doesn't make anyone right or wrong. It just is.
What went into that feeling? What prompted it, what other worries or concerns are in the background? Look under the surface.
The next challenge is, can you tell your partner this feeling? It's real easy to think, well, it's no big deal. I don't need to mention it. Little niggling resentments can grow very, very large if you habitually don't tell your lover how you feel. Be careful of a molehill growing into a mountain, because you wanted to be polite rather than being honest.
This isn't a license to be hurtful; telling someone how you feel is different from accusing them or blaming them because you feel that way. If you feel angry towards your lover, you can tell them about it without insulting them. If you lose so much respect for your partner that you can't resist insulting them or being sarcastic when having discussions like these, then your attempts to work things out will turn into withering crossfire. This may be your idea of fun, but I doubt it. Just say how you feel, here and now.
Does your partner listen? Before anything else happens, your partner needs to let you know that they heard you. If they ignore you, or dismiss what you're saying, or immediately start telling you how they feel, then there's not much communication happening.
Listening isn't the same as hearing successfully. You may tell your lover that you had a hard feeling when they did something, and they may hear that you think they're evil, when all you're saying is that you felt something. Check that your lover understood what you meant.
If your lover becomes defensive, that's understandable. It's hard not to. But it won't get you far. The question is not, were they right or wrong to do what they did? The question is, what to do about the fact that you felt what you felt? Defensiveness is a diversion. The challenge is to avoid putting your lover on the defensive; the challenge is letting them know that you care about them, that you want to work things out, even while you are dealing with intense emotions. Good faith is essential; if you don't want to work things out, or if they don't, then none of this will work.
Emotions can amplify themselves. Taking a feeling personally--dwelling on your lover's motivations, or letting a momentary irritation rise into a daylong vendetta--may give you an exciting emotional ride. But it doesn't help you work things out with your lover. The more you work yourself up into a towering panic or a quivering dread, the harder it'll be for you to talk things over without your lover reacting intensely as well.
What a worthless point? It's numbling obvious that you won't freak out if you don't freak out? Perhaps. I know that sometimes emotions are literally overpowering, in which case my advice isn't much good. But I also know that many people spend years in a simmering state of discontent, going over and over the same ground. It's easy to go from a feeling that comes up, arising from something that happens, into a long litany of past grievances. The more grudges you hold, the easier it'll be to turn your present feeling into a righteous battle over wrongs past and present. Stay here and now, if you can, both when you're talking to yourself and when you're with your lover.
Once your lover's heard you, then what? Then, perhaps, nothing. Maybe you just wanted to tell them to let them know what was up with you, and you don't particularly feel they needed to or should have done anything differently. Not every feeling demands a solution; if you leap too quickly from saying what's up to deciding what to do about it, you can miss the intimacy that comes with telling difficult truth. Sometimes tough feelings just happen, and all you need is support. Talking about the feeling is a complete goal in itself; it's not the prelude to anything.
If that's not the end of the story, then what is? Maybe your lover can't do much more than support you and tell you they care for you. If you're feeling insecure, well, that isn't always something your lover can fix. They may try, but ultimately many emotions come from within.
Though, of course, not all. If your lover broke an agreement between you, or acted in a way that you had told them you would feel badly about, then an emotional response is pretty understandable. Agreements are troublesome things; vital for giving the outlines of a relationship, distracting in that you can disagree over exactly what agreements were made. Again, good faith is key. What is the spirit of the law you're trying to letter? If you lose sight of that, the rules will be empty and hollow.
If your lover breaks your agreements, over and over again, then there are two questions: why are they doing this? and, why are you reentering the agreement with them? Trust is essential for a strong relationship. Trust comes from two things: knowing that agreements made will be kept, and knowing that you will both be there for each other, in good times and in difficult times. When that goes, it's not easy to recapture.
You do not have to put up with anything. If your partner doesn't have much concern for how you feel--if you don't enjoy being with them because of how they behave--then it will be very difficult for you to stay with them. Of course, good faith is needed; if you haven't let them know how you feel, then it's partly your responsibility that they continued to act as they did. And if your feelings have changed, you'd better have let them know about it, or else there's not much way they could be expected to act differently.
Monday, November 12, 2007
Friends are getting married
Keep hearing people are getting married. Probably that's the average age to tie the knot and vow for another stage of life with the loved ones...
Some of my friends took really nice wedding photos and even build a website. Have a look at Cherrie & Shirley wedding site ;)
http://aprilcherrie.com/wedding/gallery.html
http://www.chroma-works.com/wedding/
Congratulations! happy wedding and wish you guys happy with your marriage forever!
Some of my friends took really nice wedding photos and even build a website. Have a look at Cherrie & Shirley wedding site ;)
http://aprilcherrie.com/wedding/gallery.html
http://www.chroma-works.com/wedding/
Congratulations! happy wedding and wish you guys happy with your marriage forever!
Saturday, November 10, 2007
Learning Swedish
Basic Swedish:
Hi - Hej
How are you - hur mår du
Fine,thanks - bra, tack.
Please to meet you - Trevligt att traffas
Yes - Ja/Nej
Please - Var snäll och
I beg your pardon - Forlåt
Do you speak English - Talar ni engelska?
I don't speak swedish - Jag talar inte svenska.
I understand - Jag förstår.
I don't understand - Jag förstår inte.
Good bye - Adjö
Good morning - God morgon
Good afternoon - God middag
Good night - God natt
boyfriend - min pojkvän
girlfriend - min flickvän
Jar ar har med min pojkvän ;)
Hi - Hej
How are you - hur mår du
Fine,thanks - bra, tack.
Please to meet you - Trevligt att traffas
Yes - Ja/Nej
Please - Var snäll och
I beg your pardon - Forlåt
Do you speak English - Talar ni engelska?
I don't speak swedish - Jag talar inte svenska.
I understand - Jag förstår.
I don't understand - Jag förstår inte.
Good bye - Adjö
Good morning - God morgon
Good afternoon - God middag
Good night - God natt
boyfriend - min pojkvän
girlfriend - min flickvän
Jar ar har med min pojkvän ;)
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Jackie Chan's Cafe opening
I went to Jackie Chan's cafe launch this afternoon at Starhill Gallery. Saw him in front of me making coffee for Datuk Francis Yeoh. A lot of media are invited and many photographers flashing their camera to take his pictures.
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